Message from the moderator

[McIvan]

Bootie,

What are your thoughts on suggesting that members first contact the person concerned privately and explain their concerns....see if that clears things up straight away?

Often, it seems to me that people don't even realise they have offended someone.....when it gets pointed out to them in private they will apologise and fix something by themselves. Whereas when a complaint goes straight to a mod then its of necessity a bit more formal.

Sometimes people will be uncomfortable PMing another member, whether by their own reticent nature or the perceived personality of the person causing them offence (or their relationship (or lack thereof) with that person), and that's fine...bring it to the mod.

But perhaps the first thing people could think of is whether they can sort out any issue directly, man to man. They might be surprised at how well things turn out....we all have a lot in common.

The only other thing I would suggest is that we don't make this place too school-marmish. Any school-kids reading this site are (a) too young to get the innuendo or (b) if they're not too young, they're off swapping Penthouse magazines with their mates anyways. Nothing they read here is going to matter a damn.