The spirit of the game...

[RedDevil]

Becoming a total arse and ruining the fun for the person you are playing is ruining and violating the spirit of the game. Using some sort of outside calculator/odds generator to obtain favorable factors during your turns is violating the spirit of the game. Complaining rather than offering advice and positive suggestions over someone's tactics and misuse of game elements that contradict your preferences is violating the spirit of the game.

Using game mechanics to your advantage is your opponents fault for letting it get that far, but nothing in a sense that is violating the spirit of the game.

IMO
There is no cheese in CM, only whine
Wine is only good with cheese, not CM.

Point being made is simple, play those who play the way you play, but don't complain about those who don't live up to your expectations. They may be simply playing a game, rather than trying to experience a realism level of your desire.