The spirit of the game...

[Bert Blitzkrieg]

Point being made is simple, play those who play the way you play, but don't complain about those who don't live up to your expectations. They may be simply playing a game, rather than trying to experience a realism level of your desire.

I agree. If someone does something you think is gamey, don't complain, just never play him again!

I agree with these statements. Of course you could ask your opponent to change his ways/views with the reason why. If he is just focused in winning any way he can: stay away from him.

I read that there was a Polish guy who discoverd to "view" or "read" the PBEM files before he'd sent them back. He kept on making new files in a certain situation until his gun did kill that enemy tank with the first shot instead of a miss or just hit without any consequence.
I would think this behaviour is a bit contrary to "the spirit of the game".:P