Hi!
Are you talking about WinSP or SP:WaW ?
If it's WinSP these suggestions might have more impact posting them in their forum:
http://forum.shrapnelgames.com/forumdisplay.php?f=139
Following facts are from my experience with WinSP:
Regarding your 1. point:
You can already adjust the turns.
At the very beginning where you buy your troops you can view the map and there you can freely adjust the number of turns.
As for the AI-picks I mostly agree, but I don't see much chance that it will change that drastically.
What you can do right now is to set the Buying of the enemy to human, this will allow you to buy the enemy forces you expect. Granted that the surprise of what is coming is gone through this, but deploying and fighting is still done by AI and might offer surprises.
"Tapfer. Standhaft. Treu." - PzGrenB.13 Ried/Innkreis