NO SAVE PBEM option bugged?

[phoenix]

I don't understand what the 'no save PBEM' option is for. If it's meant to stop cheating then a better implementation would be a 'forced save PBEM' option, whereby whenever you closed a PBEM game you were forced to save it. 

As it is, I cannot play with that option because it stops you breaking down bigger games into manageable sessions. In a recent Scheldt '44 PBEM game - with NikolaiB - I started the game without the option and after he had finished his turn it came back to me with the rule chosen and fixed forever, with no way of getting rid of it. This was because, it seems, when he opened the game the option was set as on, on his machine. This then worked to overrule my choices and then there was no way back. The game will have to be started again. 

This seems like a bug. Or at least a feature that works in an odd way. Hence I report it here. 

Does anyone else have any experience of this, and know a way around this? Thanks.